48. Going our own way

Nobody likes admitting they are wrong

We bring our own preconceived ideas about what people are like and what they should and shouldn’t do.

People tell us who they are but we ignore it because we want them to be who we want them to be.

We believe our way is the best despite contrary advice until we make a complete mess of things. From there we adapt and continue with the notion of ‘my way or the highway’.

Any of that sound relatable?

The headstrong approach is good for a lot of things; ignoring hurtful comments, focussing on work, and not comparing yourself to others.

It isn’t all good though.

Empathy, relatability, compassion- these are all born out of understanding a different perspective to your own.

We all have a sphere of control in our lives but we shouldn’t yearn to overextend that for the result could be us hurting others or even ourselves.

It is learning to use what limited autonomy we do have and make the best use of it.

The other time where others take the reigns simply does not have to worry us and the quicker we recognise that the more we can learn to utilise those moments. That lack of governance can be used to learn about others, hear new views and skills, teach patience, and consequently better that time we do have control.

In isolation and solitary decision making we can refine and reflect on our ways but without others, we restrict ourselves from potentially understanding the best way for us to go about our life.

Are you willing to miss out on that?